Every man wants his life to matter. We want to know that when the dust settles and our time on this earth is done, something about our presence made a difference — that the people around us were better because we showed up. The problem is, the world keeps feeding us the wrong definition of greatness. It tells us greatness is found in position, power, or performance. It’s in how high you climb...
Your phone may be the loudest voice in your life — and it’s drowning out God. Silence used to be part of our lives. You’d take a walk with only your thoughts. Wait in line without checking your feed. Sit at a red light without checking email. But somewhere along the way, the stillness got replaced by scrolls, likes, buzzes, and pings. I may be showing my age, but I remember when our family got...
Every man carries invisible fingerprints on his soul. We’ve all been shaped—by family, culture, mentors, heroes, even by the absence of the voices we longed to hear. For many, the lessons started early: “Real men don’t cry.” “Man up.” “Handle your own problems.” Some of these messages helped us push through challenges, but others subtly distorted our understanding of God, ourselves, and what it...
Ask ten men what it means to be a “real man,” and you’ll get ten different answers. Some will talk about toughness—being strong, independent, and never backing down. Others will point to leadership—providing, protecting, staying in control. Even in the church, we tend to adopt the same ideals with a spiritual spin: men are told to lead, serve, give, attend, and, for heaven’s sake, don’t screw up...
Every man is keeping score, whether he admits it or not. Some tally numbers in the bank account, square footage in the house, or the horsepower under the hood. Others measure it by job titles, social media followers, or how quickly people return their calls. From the time we’re young, the world hands us a scoreboard and says, “Here’s how you know you’re winning.” I was a card-carrying member of...
The lies men pick up along the way seem to stick. Some lies were spoken outright—by a father who said you’d never measure up, by a coach who told you toughness means you’re a real man, or by a boss who managed by intimidation. Other lies are quieter, picked up from culture, comparison, or even church traditions that twisted God’s truth. Unfortunately, these lies don’t stay in our heads;...
What’s often missing in the conversation about “becoming who you were meant to be” is the how. The world tells men to reinvent themselves. The church frequently tells men to behave themselves. Jesus tells men to deny themselves—so they can finally become themselves. We spend years trying to harness the willpower, self-discipline, and the true grit we think necessary to be who God wants us to be...
Today, we live in a world where influence is measured by what people say, what they wear, where they vacation and dine, and what they drive. There ws a time when the influencers were people who actually accomplished good. People like Martin Luther King, Jr. who was key in birthing the non-violent civil right movement, Nelson Mandela, an anti-apartheid revolutionary, who served as the first black...
Opening Thought Excuse my heresy for knocking bacon. Unfortunately, there are churches who have adopted what they consider a working formula to attract men—promise men anything including bacon, toss in a Bible verse, maybe a few dad jokes, and call it men’s ministry; using the tried and true idiom, “If you feed them, they will come.” Hey, we’re not knocking breakfast. Men love bacon...
We don’t like to admit it, but sometimes God doesn’t come through the way we hoped He would. You prayed. You believed. You fasted, you hoped, you did everything you knew to do—and still nothing changed. The promotion fell through. The illness lingered. The marriage didn’t heal. The relationship wasn’t restored. In those moments, you start to believe God let you down. He is omnipotent. He could...